Sins and Faults of the Tongue: To Speak or not to Speak – That is the Question
- Obvious Sins of the Tongue
- Unrealized Faults of Speech
- Detraction – speaking about another persons’ faults (faults that are true) without a good reason (Sirach 21).
- Calumny – which is speaking about a persons’ faults (faults that are not true).
- Bickering – speaking nasty or biting remarks
- Nagging – the constant complaining, scolding or urging about a fault even if it is true; to find fault constantly (Proverbs 21:9).
- Ego-centrism – constantly referring to what I did, what I said, etc. Constantly talking about ME
- Breaking confidences – for there are natural secrets that should not be spread; people have a right to their reputation (Proverbs 11:13)
- Dominating a conversation to prove a point – and most of the time we are unaware we are doing this.
- Salacious talks/jokes – which has to do with speaking impurely (Ephesians 5:3-4).
- Talking can be a big waste of time – when the talking is empty and gossipy (Matt. 12:36)
- Neglecting the spiritual in our speaking with others – which is the main business of our lives (Ps. 25:15; Eph. 1: Col. 3:12; Eph. 5:18-20)
- Dissipation and draining of our psychic energies – leaving us fatigued, distracted, and unable to do our tasks at hand
- Bad example – to our family, friends, co-workers, but especially to our children
- Excessive comfort-seeking through words – which includes talking over and over again about one’s hurts
- Excusing ourselves – when we should not
- Vain discussions – when our time could be better spent (2 Tim. 2:16-17)
- Meddling in others’ affairs (2 Thess. 3:11-12)
In silence today listen to the Lord: