7 indicators you have a frenemy
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Sunday, August 6, 2017
FEAST OF THE TRANSFIGURATION
This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased; listen to him." When the disciples heard this, they fell prostrate and were very much afraid.
Job, Chapter 5, Verse 21-22
21 From the scourge of the tongue you shall be hidden, and you shall not fear approaching ruin. 22 At ruin and want you shall laugh; the beasts of the earth, do not fear.
Eliphaz appears to be a frenemy. Frenemies are often supportive and complimentary, sometimes to excess. But deep down they harbor a ulterior motive – to compete with or humiliate their “friend.”
Eliphaz Decides God's Punishment is Good for Job
· Eliphaz is still chatting away. Now he says that God doles out both good and bad, and that the righteous have nothing to fear from him.
7 indicators you have a frenemy
1. Constant Attention-Frenemies often crave intimacy in relationships and want to be your bestie five minutes after you meet. They ask for a lunch date, friend you on Facebook, and start texting all in the same day. Friends understand that building a relationship takes time. Frenemies want to be too close too soon.
2. Over Sharing-Frenemies will tell you their life’s story, including highly personal details, over your first coffee. They will volunteer to pick up your kids at school, help with your big project, or take the check every time you go for lunch. In the back of your mind, you realize there is an imbalance in the relationship – and you’re right. The frenemy will expect that attention to be repaid, with interest. Friends keep some things about their personal life private and allow you to do the same. Frenemies thrive on relational entanglement.
3. Criticism Given as Humor-Frenemies love the put down, usually given in front of others. When challenged, they generally claim it was intended to be lighthearted, opening the door for a second slam. “Gee, I was only kidding. Some people just can’t take a joke.” Frenemies love sarcasm, and they are masters of the “Who, me?” expression. Friends may engage in good-natured ribbing, but they respect your feelings. Frenemies use humor as a cover for dealing body blows.
4. Left-Handed Compliments-Frenemies are effusive with praise at the beginning of the relationship but begin to mix it with mild criticism and, eventually, insults. Don’t mistake this for the constructive critique of a mentor. Frenemies say things like “That’s not bad writing, especially for a person with your education,” and “Well look who’s on time for a meeting. Seriously, I’m glad you could make it.” Friends dish out unqualified praise and offer criticism gently, privately, and rarely. Frenemies often mix the two.
5. Digging Up Dirt-Frenemies feed on negative information and always dig for more. If you say you’re feeling a bit down, they’ll want to know why. Was it a fight with your spouse? Are you depressed? Tomorrow, they’ll press further. “How’s it going with your sister, still not speaking?” At first it will feel good to have someone who remembers what’s happening in your life and seems to care. In time, you’ll notice that this is a purely negative exercise and every conversation becomes an interrogation. Worse, this behavior will be spiritualized with statements like, “I just want to know how to pray for you.” Friends show concern about your personal problems but allow you a measure of privacy. Frenemies look for the sore spot in your life put their finger on it every time.
6. That Nagging Feeling-If you have the persistent feeling that someone in your relational web cannot be trusted or has an ulterior motive in seeking your friendship, pay attention – you’re probably right. Friends disarm your fears over time by proving themselves trustworthy. Frenemies produce a feeling of apprehension.
7. Sabotage-A frenemy’s goal is not to help you succeed but to ensure that you fail, or at least feel miserable in your success. This will eventually take the form of passive-aggressive resistance or outright sabotage. The frenemy shows up five minutes late on your big day, signaling to the team that their agenda is more important. The frenemy will ask you to clarify an embarrassing misstatement in public rather than in private, saying that they “just want to be sure we’re all hearing the same thing.” Friends care about you and help you succeed. Frenemies care about themselves and feel best when you are at your worst.
Feast of the Transfiguration
This is the second commemoration during the liturgical year of the miracle of the Transfiguration. (The first, on the second Sunday in Lent, recalls Christ's divinity, while today emphasizes His triumph and glory.) The transformed Christ rises up above the mountain. Moses and Elias are at his right and left side. The rays of his glory touch them as well as the three Apostles present [Peter, James, and John]. The latter bow down, while St. Peter cried: "Lord, it is a good thing that we are here. If you wish I will make three tents here, one for you, one for Moses and one for Elia" (Matthew 17.4). 
GOSPEL. Matt. xvii. 1-9.
At that time : Jesus taketh unto Him Peter and James, and John his brother, and bringeth them up into a high mountain apart: and He was transfigured before them. And His face did shine as the sun: and His garments became white as snow. And behold there appeared to them Moses and Elias talking with Him. And Peter, answering, said to Jesus: Lord, it is good for us to be here: if Thou wilt, let us make here three tabernacles, one for Thee, and one for Moses, and one for Elias. And as he was yet speaking, behold a bright cloud overshaded them. And lo a voice out of the cloud saying: This is My beloved Son, in Whom I arn well pleased: hear ye Him. And the disciples hearing, fell upon their face: and were very much afraid. And Jesus came and touched them: and said to them: Arise, and fear not. And they lifting up their eyes saw no one, but only Jesus. And as they came down from the mountain, Jesus charged them, saying: Tell the vision to no man, till the
Son of man be risen from the dead.
Why was Jesus transfigured before His disciples on Mount Thabor?
1. To give them a manifest proof of His divinity.
2. To prevent all doubt on their part when they should see Him on Mount Calvary.
3. To encourage all the faithful to patience under agony and suffering.
4. To show us how our glorified bodies shall rise from the dead (i. Cor. xv. 52).
556 On the threshold of the public life: the baptism; on the threshold of the Passover: the Transfiguration. Jesus' baptism proclaimed "the mystery of the first regeneration", namely, our Baptism; the Transfiguration "is the sacrament of the second regeneration": our own Resurrection. From now on we share in the Lord's Resurrection through the Spirit who acts in the sacraments of the Body of Christ. The Transfiguration gives us a foretaste of Christ's glorious coming, when he "will change our lowly body to be like his glorious body." But it also recalls that "it is through many persecutions that we must enter the kingdom of God": Peter did not yet understand this when he wanted to remain with Christ on the mountain. It has been reserved for you, Peter, but for after death. For now, Jesus says: "Go down to toil on earth, to serve on earth, to be scorned and crucified on earth. Life goes down to be killed; Bread goes down to suffer hunger; the Way goes down to be exhausted on his journey; the Spring goes down to suffer thirst; and you refuse to suffer?"
568 Christ's Transfiguration aims at strengthening the apostles' faith in anticipation of his Passion: the ascent on to the "high mountain" prepares for the ascent to Calvary. Christ, Head of the Church, manifests what his Body contains and radiates in the sacraments: "the hope of glory" (Col 1:27; cf.: St. Leo the Great, Sermo 51, 3: PL 54, 310C).
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